These signs a husband is gay are not meant to be definitive. These signs of a gay husband are designed as a starting point.Ī husband may be gay and display none of those signs or a husband may display these signs and not be gay. Kaye advises that women 'follow their instincts' when deciding whether their husband may be gay. If it turns out that a husband is, in fact, gay, the fallout can be difficult to deal with, particularly for the straight partner.